A friend wrote the other day saying that she was having great trouble coping with the way her daughter and son-in-law were treating their children. I couldn’t just toss out the phrases: “It’s not your job.”, which it isn’t; “Relax and Allow.”, which she couldn’t; or “You can’t create in another person’s reality.”, which you can’t.
Instead, I sent her the Ho’oponopono prayer. Simply stated it is:
I love you
Please forgive me
It’s the ancient Hawaiian prayer to “make things right”. It’s since been called many things. A prayer for forgiveness, reconciliation and taking responsibility. I’ve found it quite amazing to repeat it over and over as a mantra in my head when I want to clear something.
It somehow lets us take responsibility for ourselves and then we realize that’s all we can do and that’s quite enough. We really have no influence on others. Like Jesus, we can only show by example. But remember, even Jesus said when people praised him for his “miracles” – “The things you see me do you shall do also, but greater.”
On another level of interpretation, if you hold animosity in your heart, people react in defense. If your heart is pure, there is no reaction except to mirror your love to them.
Another thing I told my friend is that anger toward another person is like you taking poison and expecting them to die! How crazy is that!
The best thing about Ho’oponopono is that you can just say the prayer without joining any group or following anyone but yourself. I found out about it by reading the book Zero Limits. It’s about Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len, a Hawaiian therapist who “helped heal an entire ward of mentally ill criminals — without seeing any of them” by using this prayer.
Try saying these simple phrases and see how they can transform your life!
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Carolyn Dean MD ND
The Doctor of the Future®
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